r/MensLib

Rule Zero

/r/MensLib is a space for constructive discussion of men's issues. Moderators reserve complete discretion to maintain a positive atmosphere, including removing comments and submissions, and banning offenders.

Be civil

Disagreements should be handled with respect, cordiality, and a default presumption of good faith. Engage the idea, not the individual, and remember the human. Do not lazily paint all members of any group with the same brush, or engage in petty tribalism.

Be the men’s issues conversation you want to see in the world.

Be proactive in forming a productive discussion. Constructive criticism of our community is fine, but if you mainly criticize our approach, feminism, or other people's efforts to solve gender issues, your post/comment will be removed. Posts/comments solely focused on semantics rather than concepts are unproductive and will be removed. Shitposting and low-effort comments and submissions will be removed.

Attack ideas, not individuals.

Friendly debates are welcome, so long as you stick to talking about ideas and not the user. Comments attacking a user, directly or indirectly, are not welcome and will be removed.

Slurs and hatespeech are prohibited

Slurs and hatespeech are prohibited, including but not limited to racial bigotry, colourism, ableism, attacks based on sexuality (including sexual experience, orientation, and identity). We count on our subscribers to report violation of this rule.

Negative stereotyping and insensitivity towards protected groups will not be tolerated.

Negative stereotyping and insensitivity towards protected groups will not be tolerated. See /r/MensLib/wiki/rules for a full explanation with examples.

Do not call other submitters' personal stories into question.

This is a community for support and solutions. Discussing different perspectives is fine, but you should assume good faith and adopt a sympathetic approach when members open up about personal hardships.

Do not participate if you have been linked to this discussion from elsewhere.

If you found yourself in a thread because of an external link do not vote or comment. If the moderators suspect this to be the case you may be banned for 1-∞ days.

Complaints about moderation must be served through modmail.

Comments or posts primarily attacking mods, mod decisions, or the sub will be removed. We will discuss moderation policies with users with genuine concerns through modmail, but this sub is for the discussion of men’s issues. Meta criticism distracts from that goal.

Links to elsewhere on reddit must promote constructive discussion of men’s issues.

Links to other threads or subreddits that stir up meta-drama without adding something substantial to the conversation will be removed. All comments and posts including these links will be subject to moderator discretion in order to maintain a civil, productive discussion.

This is a pro-feminist community.

This is a place to discuss men and men's issues, and general feminist concepts are integral to that discussion. Our approach is intersectional and recognizes privilege as relative to the individual. If you're confused by certain terms, we'll refer you to other resources - but this isn't the place to debate terminology. Unconstructive Antifeminism is not allowed. This is defined as unspecific criticism of Feminism that does not stick to specific events, individuals or institutions.

Any individuals who don't primarily identify as men are welcome to participate here.

Any individuals who don't primarily identify as men are welcome to participate here. Please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men; be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their views.

Topic-Specific Rules

• Find our rules for discussion of circumcision here
• Find our rules for discussion of dating here

Banned Topics

• We do not discuss "financial abortion" in the context of consensual sex. More on this policy here.
• We will not permit the promotion of gender essentialism
• We will not permit the promotion of Red Pill, Incel, MGTOW or other far-right or misogynist ideologies.